1. Recognise and Understand your Self
Quite simply put, you’ve got to know who you are and what role you play in society. A lot of people still don’t know what they want to be when they grow up (even at 40) . To answer this, you’ve got to know who you are, your very purpose of being alive and applying what you know, your talents and your skills into something that you truly love and are passionate about. What would you like to contribute to the World?
2. Invest In Yourself
If you have the time and the means, why not go further than what you already know. Upgrade yourself. Take a course, a class or a workshop. Involve yourself in learning communities and social groups.
Why not learn about several industries? Reading books and articles of educational content can and will help you in many areas of your life.
Don’t spend too much time watching YouTube videos that don’t contribute to your mental growth. Of course it’s ok if it’s once in awhile but not 90% of your time. Your time is precious.
Enhance your super human power and nourish your brain. This way, you’ll learn about things that your spouse or circle of friends might not know about. You could be a mentor or a good go-to friend. Being a contributor might just change your life.
By being a sponge for information, you might just be the spine for people in communities. Your boss won’t be able to help it but give you a raise, given your smarts. And don’t be surprise that you’ll be head hunted by major companies who love a person of knowledge and experience.
3. Mix with the right Crowd
If you are picky when buying clothes or that new smart phone then by all means do the same when finding a partner and a good group of friends.
Know this from the start. The things you talk or think about reflects much on who you’ve been hanging out with and the things you surround yourself with.
You need a crowd that enhances and builds your character. People who know your flaws and love you anyway. People who highlight your faults only to care, mould and develop you.
People who correct you in a loving and appropriate manner are the ones that value you as a person and they are the ones who would love to see you succeed in Life.
To add on to this, be forewarned if you are too sensitive and egotistical to accept correction. Take it with a pinch of salt or I’m afraid, it’s a road to your spiritual Doom.
You aren’t able to grow as a human if you don’t want to learn from your mistakes and weaknesses.
You also need friends who aren’t just critical to your well being but who, at the same time are your ever dying cheerleaders and supporters.
If you have friends from all walks of life, backgrounds and race, you’d learn the different types of “Worlds” people actually live in.
Everyone’s perspectives are different and even different social groups think and behave differently. This is a source from where you can learn how to view things in many ways and how to find solutions in many ways too.
You’ll get the first hand download of different viewpoints. If you find a group of friends that love to succeed together as a group with no envy or competition , then that’s your A-team right there. Grow and succeed together. Everyone’s at a win win.
4. Be your Own Competition
I’ve encountered a few trolls in my Life. And guess what they spend the most time on? Trolling me.
They’ve trolled my websites, social media platforms and even trolled my friends and loved one. They spend all that precious time, searching and wanting to know my every movement, whether I’m succeeding in all aspects of Life, whether I’ve become ill or poor, or have I rotted away into the dim lights of a writer’s demise. And the funny thing is, this person is trying to compare our successes and show the people (who she wants to win votes from), how successful she is and how I’m not.
Sad isn’t it ?
You see, this is a classic example of “When one doesn’t know what to do with one’s time”. If you have to compete and compare, do it to your own Self.
Be better than who you were last month, last week or even the day before. Self reflection is gifted to the Seekers. And “Sleepers”, (the people who don’t question about their existence), don’t really bother developing themselves into better humans because they already think that they’re God’s gift to Mankind and eating, sleeping and working is all they’re going to do for the rest of their lives.
That was a life fact right there.
Be your own Competitor and challenge yourself to score better at whatever you could be better at. You have to follow your own pace and use your own judgement to gauge yourself.
If you’ve got someone to chase, chase the You that’s 10 years from now. Chase the wiser and more equipped you. I learned that from Matthew McConaughey. You’ve got to watch this clip of his acceptance speech major Jedi of Light moment.
5. Have a Grateful Mindset about Life
I quote this example from my own experience with people I meet. Who as kind and generous souls as they are, are still unhappy 90% of the time about everything. Their time is filled with complaining and ranting about whatever they can. They may not be negative people per se but their habits sure are heading towards that road of darkness.
Another example is a personal experience I’d like to share.
I used to be with someone who was polluting the environment and everything around me. His main aim was to spread as much hate as he could. And to ensure that I fell trap to his greater agendas.
Whenever you mentioned his name, no one had anything good to say about him. He became like the Voldemort of Mankind, affecting the peace of humanity and all God’s creations. ( I assure you this dramatic intro is only touching the surface of the real drama that actually happened – rolls eyes)
When I was with this person, there was never a day that he was grateful about his Life.
He was never happy with whoever and wherever he worked at. He always had something bad to say about everything. He spoke ill of his friends, his colleagues, his bosses and even his family members.
Boils down to, if you aren’t grateful about your Life, then you will never attain 3 things.
A) True Happiness
B) Your Soul’s Growth
C) An Honest Peace of Mind
So don’t fall trap to people who show you who they really are. Believe them when you see the first sign of trouble. Love can only get you so far. Use your head on what’s good and right to what is toxic and damaging. A person who is grateful tends to be more calm, collect and positive.
So let’s recap.
1. Recognize and Understand your Identity
2. Invest in Yourself
3. Mix with the Right Crowd
4. Be your Own Competition
5. Have a Grateful Mindset about Life
I hope these tips opened your eyes to everything around you. Do some Lifestyle and Habit Housekeeping. Keep yourself on check. And you’ll definitely be “Living a Life You Love” in no time.
Happy Midweek Everyone!